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DEBT MUST NOT DESTROY YOUR MARRIAGE

You ignore common sense at your own peril. Most young couples return from their honeymoon to face a Kilimanjaro-high mountain of debts. You budgeted for 150 but 372 people turned up. You now owe the caterer for the additional mouths. You only paid the deposit for the function venue. You paid half-down for the marquee/tent. The florist allowed you to have those additional arrangements for payment after the wedding. The photographer will only deliver the photos on full payment. The list goes on… The anticipated windfall from guest presents did not materialise. Many of those who attended gave all sorts of household gifts – most of them unwanted (including 41 coffee mugs!!) – instead of cash. The $2190 received as cash will only cover a small fraction of your wedding debts!! What to do? Sit down with your spouse. Tally all the debts to ascertain the extent of your indebtedness. (No need to argue now!!) Assess each of your creditors. Agree on which debts to work on first. Engage all the creditors and apprise them of your situation. Seek to buy time. Negotiate for terms. Will they accept part payments? Where you can consolidate your debts, it is advisable to …

GOD HATES DIVORCE

John & Virginia Makumbe It is true that sometimes two married people may fail to continue to love each other the way they did before and soon after their marriage. This situation is worsened when one of the spouses begins to see other people outside of the marriage. The sad case of a Government Minister reported in the papers recently is illustrative of the folly of infidelity. Somebody likened marriage to two pieces of paper that have been glued together. Any attempt to separate them will result in both of them being torn and damaged. Perhaps that is why God hates divorce. Nobody walks out of a marriage unharmed. Married couples should therefore do their best to resolve their differences through talking and getting good counselling from pastors, friends and relatives. Couples should try and forgive each other instead of rushing into divorce.   We are not in any way implying that divorce is inevitable where there has been infidelity. Sexual sin is not the unpardonable sin. It should be possible for a couple to forgive each other and re-commit to their marriage. Problems often arise where one spouse repeats the folly of infidelity after being forgiven first time. In …