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GOD HATES DIVORCE

John & Virginia Makumbe It is true that sometimes two married people may fail to continue to love each other the way they did before and soon after their marriage. This situation is worsened when one of the spouses begins to see other people outside of the marriage. The sad case of a Government Minister reported in the papers recently is illustrative of the folly of infidelity. Somebody likened marriage to two pieces of paper that have been glued together. Any attempt to separate them will result in both of them being torn and damaged. Perhaps that is why God hates divorce. Nobody walks out of a marriage unharmed. Married couples should therefore do their best to resolve their differences through talking and getting good counselling from pastors, friends and relatives. Couples should try and forgive each other instead of rushing into divorce.   We are not in any way implying that divorce is inevitable where there has been infidelity. Sexual sin is not the unpardonable sin. It should be possible for a couple to forgive each other and re-commit to their marriage. Problems often arise where one spouse repeats the folly of infidelity after being forgiven first time. In …

The sex starved husband or boss

Warning signs for you to proceed with caution… Do any of the following sound familiar? Most wives have come across some of these signs and symptoms at one time or the other. I have numbered them for ease of identification! THE SEX STARVED HUSBAND/BOSS 1. Suffers from facial paralysis and is therefore incapable of smiling. 2. Cannot look you in the eye lest you see the anger behind the pupils. When he does look up, his eyes say one thing, and one thing only – ‘Go away!’ 3. Is Dumb – and therefore unable to speak. Sometimes the capacity for speech returns but only in grunts and other alphabet-defying monosyllables. 4. Is Deaf – cannot hear what you say particularly if it is a request for something to be done. Simply has no time to do anyone any favours. 5. Is Blind – unable to see a) The lovely new dress you have put on b) The make-up that took you 4 hours to paste on. c) That the lawn is overgrown and needs to be mowed. d) The verandah light has not been working for a week now… e) The Kitchen sink is blocked. 6. Is almost always angry …

A HAPPY MARRIAGE IS A CHOICE!

HOW TO HAVE A HAPPY MARRIAGE A Happy and satisfying marriage is a CHOICE. It is an act of the will. You decide that you will do right, act right, speak right, think right and relate right! You decide you want to be happy. MISERY IS A CHOICE!! At the bottom of most of our fights and disagreements is a childish desire to have our own way often called selfishness. Think about it for a while. Rewind to the last angry episode you had with your spouse. You insisted you were right. And so did he. Your idea made more sense. He felt his was the best course of action. You thought to yourself,’Why does he always have to be right?’ Meanwhile he is saying to himself, ‘She thinks she is smart; I will not let her get away with this!’ Back and forth you argued trying to get the better of the other. Arguing can be exhausting, so after a while you retreat into some corner in sullen silence while he takes refuge in the TV lounge to stare blankly at the screen. The issue remains unresolved. Dialogue has been replaced by silence. Love has been displaced by resentment. …