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STOP THE NAGGING

What is nagging? A repeated request for something to be done which the other person ignores or trivialises. They get annoyed and you also get annoyed. And so the dance goes on. 93% of the time nagging is used to refer to boisterous, loud, demanding wives. But we also have men who nag. They make up the remaining 7%. If it is not working, conventional wisdom says change the method or the approach or just drop it. Stop the nagging. Unless what you want done is critical and earth-shaking. It will get you nowhere apart from causing the other person, usually your spouse, to despise you. Nagging introduces tension. Nagging poisons the atmosphere. Nagging stifles conversation. Nagging suffocates friendship. Nagging wastes energy and sucks the fun out of marriage. Nagging is a spoiler!! According to various versions of the Bible, nagging is described as being bitter-tongued, being a brawler, quarrelsome, contentious, argumentative, indulging in bickering! Proverbs 21:9 ESV It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife. Do you wish to have any of those adjectives applied to you? Why not make your request once or twice and trust …

The sex starved husband or boss

Warning signs for you to proceed with caution… Do any of the following sound familiar? Most wives have come across some of these signs and symptoms at one time or the other. I have numbered them for ease of identification! THE SEX STARVED HUSBAND/BOSS 1. Suffers from facial paralysis and is therefore incapable of smiling. 2. Cannot look you in the eye lest you see the anger behind the pupils. When he does look up, his eyes say one thing, and one thing only – ‘Go away!’ 3. Is Dumb – and therefore unable to speak. Sometimes the capacity for speech returns but only in grunts and other alphabet-defying monosyllables. 4. Is Deaf – cannot hear what you say particularly if it is a request for something to be done. Simply has no time to do anyone any favours. 5. Is Blind – unable to see a) The lovely new dress you have put on b) The make-up that took you 4 hours to paste on. c) That the lawn is overgrown and needs to be mowed. d) The verandah light has not been working for a week now… e) The Kitchen sink is blocked. 6. Is almost always angry …

WHAT YOU GAVE UP WHEN YOU SAID “I DO”

COMPROMISE IS THE KEY WORD! The transition from ‘singlehood’ to being married is not always easy. There is a lot of adjusting to do. For the union to work there are many compromises that one has to make, and there are many things one has to give up either because it is the right thing to do or on request or because it has been demanded by your spouse. You cannot have your cake and eat it at the same time. Some things just have to go. Some things you will have to decide to let go of, willingly or reluctantly. Incompatibility results when one or both refuse to yield in some area insisting on ‘my lifestyle as usual’. For marriages to work, some things just have to be given up. Changes cannot be avoided. Some things have to move to create room for your spouse. The sooner you realise and accept that the better!! When you said “I do” these are some of the things you had to sacrifice or give up for this thing called marriage to work. Time to yourself Personal space – this has reduced by at least 50%. Sexual liaisons with whoever and whenever. You …