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DEBT MUST NOT DESTROY YOUR MARRIAGE

You ignore common sense at your own peril. Most young couples return from their honeymoon to face a Kilimanjaro-high mountain of debts. You budgeted for 150 but 372 people turned up. You now owe the caterer for the additional mouths. You only paid the deposit for the function venue. You paid half-down for the marquee/tent. The florist allowed you to have those additional arrangements for payment after the wedding. The photographer will only deliver the photos on full payment. The list goes on… The anticipated windfall from guest presents did not materialise. Many of those who attended gave all sorts of household gifts – most of them unwanted (including 41 coffee mugs!!) – instead of cash. The $2190 received as cash will only cover a small fraction of your wedding debts!! What to do? Sit down with your spouse. Tally all the debts to ascertain the extent of your indebtedness. (No need to argue now!!) Assess each of your creditors. Agree on which debts to work on first. Engage all the creditors and apprise them of your situation. Seek to buy time. Negotiate for terms. Will they accept part payments? Where you can consolidate your debts, it is advisable to …

ANANIAS AND SAPPHIRA AGREED!!

AT LEAST THEY WERE IN AGREEMENT!! Nothing positive has ever come out of Ananias and Sapphira. (Book of Acts 5:1-10) They sold a property, kept back some of the money then made a false declaration to the disciples about the price. They did not have to lie at all. They could have kept back as much as they wished as long as there was a complete and true disclosure. They gave the impression that they were giving 100% of the proceeds of the sale. Their lie or attempt to lie to the Holy Spirit had no excuse whatsoever. They were men-pleasers. They sought the praise and acknowledgement of men rather than that of God who knows all men and sees the attitudes and motives of our hearts. The lie yielded instant deaths. ¬†THEY AGREED One redeeming fact though. This husband and wife team were in agreement. Now, please do not misunderstand me here. The lie was a sin and they paid dearly. But allow me to look at the other side of things for a while. They agreed to sell the property. They sat down, discussed and agreed¬†on how much to conceal. They agreed on the response to the apostles. …

A HAPPY MARRIAGE IS A CHOICE!

HOW TO HAVE A HAPPY MARRIAGE A Happy and satisfying marriage is a CHOICE. It is an act of the will. You decide that you will do right, act right, speak right, think right and relate right! You decide you want to be happy. MISERY IS A CHOICE!! At the bottom of most of our fights and disagreements is a childish desire to have our own way often called selfishness. Think about it for a while. Rewind to the last angry episode you had with your spouse. You insisted you were right. And so did he. Your idea made more sense. He felt his was the best course of action. You thought to yourself,’Why does he always have to be right?’ Meanwhile he is saying to himself, ‘She thinks she is smart; I will not let her get away with this!’ Back and forth you argued trying to get the better of the other. Arguing can be exhausting, so after a while you retreat into some corner in sullen silence while he takes refuge in the TV lounge to stare blankly at the screen. The issue remains unresolved. Dialogue has been replaced by silence. Love has been displaced by resentment. …