Category Archives: Pre-Marriage

WHAT YOU GAVE UP WHEN YOU SAID “I DO”

COMPROMISE IS THE KEY WORD! The transition from ‘singlehood’ to being married is not always easy. There is a lot of adjusting to do. For the union to work there are many compromises that one has to make, and there are many things one has to give up either because it is the right thing to do or on request or because it has been demanded by your spouse. You cannot have your cake and eat it at the same time. Some things just have to go. Some things you will have to decide to let go of, willingly or reluctantly. Incompatibility results when one or both refuse to yield in some area insisting on ‘my lifestyle as usual’. For marriages to work, some things just have to be given up. Changes cannot be avoided. Some things have to move to create room for your spouse. The sooner you realise and accept that the better!! When you said “I do” these are some of the things you had to sacrifice or give up for this thing called marriage to work. Time to yourself Personal space – this has reduced by at least 50%. Sexual liaisons with whoever and whenever. You …