Monthly Archives: March 2012

GOD HATES DIVORCE

John & Virginia Makumbe It is true that sometimes two married people may fail to continue to love each other the way they did before and soon after their marriage. This situation is worsened when one of the spouses begins to see other people outside of the marriage. The sad case of a Government Minister reported in the papers recently is illustrative of the folly of infidelity. Somebody likened marriage to two pieces of paper that have been glued together. Any attempt to separate them will result in both of them being torn and damaged. Perhaps that is why God hates divorce. Nobody walks out of a marriage unharmed. Married couples should therefore do their best to resolve their differences through talking and getting good counselling from pastors, friends and relatives. Couples should try and forgive each other instead of rushing into divorce.   We are not in any way implying that divorce is inevitable where there has been infidelity. Sexual sin is not the unpardonable sin. It should be possible for a couple to forgive each other and re-commit to their marriage. Problems often arise where one spouse repeats the folly of infidelity after being forgiven first time. In …

STOP THE NAGGING

What is nagging? A repeated request for something to be done which the other person ignores or trivialises. They get annoyed and you also get annoyed. And so the dance goes on. 93% of the time nagging is used to refer to boisterous, loud, demanding wives. But we also have men who nag. They make up the remaining 7%. If it is not working, conventional wisdom says change the method or the approach or just drop it. Stop the nagging. Unless what you want done is critical and earth-shaking. It will get you nowhere apart from causing the other person, usually your spouse, to despise you. Nagging introduces tension. Nagging poisons the atmosphere. Nagging stifles conversation. Nagging suffocates friendship. Nagging wastes energy and sucks the fun out of marriage. Nagging is a spoiler!! According to various versions of the Bible, nagging is described as being bitter-tongued, being a brawler, quarrelsome, contentious, argumentative, indulging in bickering! Proverbs 21:9 ESV It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife. Do you wish to have any of those adjectives applied to you? Why not make your request once or twice and trust …