Monthly Archives: August 2011

The sex starved husband or boss

Warning signs for you to proceed with caution… Do any of the following sound familiar? Most wives have come across some of these signs and symptoms at one time or the other. I have numbered them for ease of identification! THE SEX STARVED HUSBAND/BOSS 1. Suffers from facial paralysis and is therefore incapable of smiling. 2. Cannot look you in the eye lest you see the anger behind the pupils. When he does look up, his eyes say one thing, and one thing only – ‘Go away!’ 3. Is Dumb – and therefore unable to speak. Sometimes the capacity for speech returns but only in grunts and other alphabet-defying monosyllables. 4. Is Deaf – cannot hear what you say particularly if it is a request for something to be done. Simply has no time to do anyone any favours. 5. Is Blind – unable to see a) The lovely new dress you have put on b) The make-up that took you 4 hours to paste on. c) That the lawn is overgrown and needs to be mowed. d) The verandah light has not been working for a week now… e) The Kitchen sink is blocked. 6. Is almost always angry …

A HAPPY MARRIAGE IS A CHOICE!

HOW TO HAVE A HAPPY MARRIAGE A Happy and satisfying marriage is a CHOICE. It is an act of the will. You decide that you will do right, act right, speak right, think right and relate right! You decide you want to be happy. MISERY IS A CHOICE!! At the bottom of most of our fights and disagreements is a childish desire to have our own way often called selfishness. Think about it for a while. Rewind to the last angry episode you had with your spouse. You insisted you were right. And so did he. Your idea made more sense. He felt his was the best course of action. You thought to yourself,’Why does he always have to be right?’ Meanwhile he is saying to himself, ‘She thinks she is smart; I will not let her get away with this!’ Back and forth you argued trying to get the better of the other. Arguing can be exhausting, so after a while you retreat into some corner in sullen silence while he takes refuge in the TV lounge to stare blankly at the screen. The issue remains unresolved. Dialogue has been replaced by silence. Love has been displaced by resentment. …

WHAT YOU GAVE UP WHEN YOU SAID “I DO”

COMPROMISE IS THE KEY WORD! The transition from ‘singlehood’ to being married is not always easy. There is a lot of adjusting to do. For the union to work there are many compromises that one has to make, and there are many things one has to give up either because it is the right thing to do or on request or because it has been demanded by your spouse. You cannot have your cake and eat it at the same time. Some things just have to go. Some things you will have to decide to let go of, willingly or reluctantly. Incompatibility results when one or both refuse to yield in some area insisting on ‘my lifestyle as usual’. For marriages to work, some things just have to be given up. Changes cannot be avoided. Some things have to move to create room for your spouse. The sooner you realise and accept that the better!! When you said “I do” these are some of the things you had to sacrifice or give up for this thing called marriage to work. Time to yourself Personal space – this has reduced by at least 50%. Sexual liaisons with whoever and whenever. You …